• How can I support my child?

    Many parents want to support their child in whatever way they can, but some find it extremely difficult to do this when it comes to matters of sexual orientation. Parents may feel that they are not in a position to provide support because they know little or nothing about being LGBT. As with all children, no matter what age - your love is the best support you can give.

    When your child 'comes out' to you, it is best not to let the matter sink into silence. You and your child may need some time to adjust to the news, but try not to leave things 'hanging' for too long. When you feel ready, try to take the initiative by talking to your child. It is important to let him know that you still love him. You could also try discussing some of the issues you both face, such as:

    • “How you feel about their sexuality?” 
    • “Do they have any lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender friends?” 
    • “Would you like me to meet them?”

    By asking these questions you will open up communication between you and your child, and reassure them that you will be there for them should they need you. It may also be a good idea to give them information on helplines, support organisations, and social groups which exist for LGBT young people. While it is good to talk to your child and while you may feel you have many questions you want answered, there may be questions which they cannot answer, or some questions which they are still seeking answers to for themselves. Try to strike a balance between talking and listening. If you do come across support groups and social groups they can attend do not force them to go or make contact on their behalf. Like all groups young people join they must do it themselves or they’re participation will be short lived and they will leave. By giving them the information they will know that you are looking out for them and there wellbeing, and it is up to them to take the first steps in their future.